P965 Platinum - MS-7238

I had my 2003 Server loaded to a RAID-5 Array of 3-320gb WD Drives

All was well until I had a drive begin to fail. Didn't tell me which
drive but started to lock up and blue screen. Listening to the drives
one was definitely beginning to crack. After a few reboots it would
power up and begin the software rebuild inside the OS.

Then fail again within a few hours. This box hosted several Virtual
machines via VMware Server.

When I went to replace the drive (now I know I pulled the incorrect
drive) It wouldn't boot.

Replaced the drive still no boot. Bios showed degraded and when I
added the spare 320 it went into fail or at least it ended up that way
after my mess.

now I know which 2 drives are still good. however when I try to
rebuild the raid array it cannot boot and just goes to a blank screen
trying to access the drives. when I put the board into standard IDE
mode it can see the drives.

Has anyone had similar mistakes and know a good rebuild. I didn't have
a clean backup of my VMDK's because I was on a RAID-5 but I have since
done some raid recovery via GetDataBacks Raid Tool. however it only
recovered one of my VMDK's for email but the other it got one VMDK the
old SERVER OS Drive but not the storage and web drive. Instead the
recovery saw that VMDK as a file system and has it all jacked up.
files all over the place in there.

Anyone know of a good way to recover the drives ... like rebuild the
array and just start it?

with 2 good disks I should be in degraded mode and should be able to
kick it up and then rebuild again. but the MBR of the raid array is
lost as far as I can tell.

let me know what options you guys have found useful. Thx